Importance of emotional intelligence on children
What are emotions?
They are affective states as an automatic and individual response to situations or the people with whom we interact. This response is accompanied by physiological changes. Emotions have an adaptive function. They are associated with past experiences and beliefs. Through the process of evaluating a situation, we put on "the glasses" with which we perceive them, leaving our behavior conditioned to that vision.
According to how we manage our emotions, our beliefs and thoughts, we will interpret our environment. A person aware of their emotions and capable of regulating them will integrate more effectively into their environment, will be more competent to solve everyday situations and, therefore, will feel more confident in their resources, more secure and happier. Childhood is the time when it is easy to learn, and the knowledge of emotions and their management is essential. A child who is not emotionally educated according to his age and is not aware of his emotional reactions is more vulnerable and lacks strategies to deal with the situations that arise. The adult figures, who are significant for the child, can help you in this task, supporting you to identify the emotions you experience in each situation, favoring the expression of your feelings and thoughts, allowing you to count and express your emotions negative and helping you regulate and tolerate them. The action of reflecting on what you feel, think and can do allows you to feel accompanied, guided by understanding adults who help you control unwanted, non-functional reactions, which prevent you from having adaptive and lower emotional cost. Active listening encourages and ensures that you feel less anxious about your emotions, as feelings of frustration, uncertainty, and guilt are reduced, and the need to explain your behavior as an "excuse" for not being criticized also decreases. Helping him calm down in the face of negative emotions and return to the feeling of tranquility will make the child understand that negative emotions must be regulated so that it does not affect their health and perception.
Putting themself "in the other person's shoes", helping them understand other people's emotions, pets and also characters from cartoons or movies, will allow the child to practice empathy and respect for the other party. Reading stories and talking about the feelings of the characters and the associated actions will make it easier to “see each other's place” and find the best answer. The coherence with which we, as behavioral models of our children, manage our own emotions, will be the best example for them to copy effective behaviors in terms of socio-emotional aspects.